• _____   rapes and sexually assaults you
• _____   forces sexual acts with him/her or others that make you uncomfortable or hurt you
• _____   forces sex after beating or threat of a beating
• _____   insists on sexual contact, kissing, touching, or fondling
• _____   films or photographs you in sexual acts when this is unwanted by you
• _____   calls you derogatory sexual names like "whore" or "frigid" or "bitch"
• _____   forces you to strip; forces you to dress in a particular way
• _____   forces you to view pornography or other people performing sexual acts
• _____   voyeurism - watches you undress or shower when this is unwanted by you
• _____   makes crude jokes or remarks about you or other women; treats women as sex objects
• _____   criticizes and demeans you sexually or attacks your femininity
• _____   disregards your sexual needs and feelings about sex
• _____   has affairs with other women after agreeing to a monogamous relationship with you
• _____   extreme jealousy; accuses you of having affairs or wanting sex with others
• _____   threatens to sexually abuse your children if you don’t comply with his demands
• _____   spreads rumors about your sexual behaviors
• _____   withholds sex and affection
• _____   forces you or refuses to let you use birth control
• _____   makes unwanted public advances
• _____   puts you at risk for unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases
• _____   directs physical injury towards sexual areas of your body

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